You are no longer happy with your marriage, and you have considered getting a divorce. Filing for divorce is a decision that is not easy to take, but sometimes it is necessary. The following signs will help you determine if separating from your spouse is the right thing to do.
You are suffering from abuse
Abuse is never acceptable. Domestic abuse is not only physical but also mental, economic or sexual. If your spouse frightens, intimidates, manipulates, humiliates or hurts you, you may need to leave the relationship. You deserve better than being treated that way.
You are stressed all the time
Being in an unhappy relationship is sad and stressful. Coping with stress all the time is not only painful, but it can also have severe repercussions on your health and overall behavior. Some warning signs for stress are:
- Constant headaches
- Upset stomach
- Chest pain
- Substance abuse
- Social withdrawal
Stress can arise from many different reasons, such as a demanding job or financial problems. However, if you get those symptoms when you think about staying in your marriage, the leading cause of your stress might be your spouse.
Your spouse is no longer your priority
Think about how your relationship worked when you first got married. You might have asked your spouse how their day after work was, made time for them in your schedule and thought about ways to pamper them. If you don’t care for any of those things now, your spouse may have stopped being your priority. You can also tell if you have lost interest in your spouse if you prioritize your time with your children and friends but not with them.
You are not arguing or not arguing the right way
If you point fingers or use swearwords in fights, it may be a sign that things are not working out for you and your spouse. Not arguing at all can also be a warning sign. You can tell if neither of you is invested in the relationship anymore if you don’t even try to work out your conflicts.
You are thinking about it non-stop
You need to listen to yourself. A relationship won’t work if you are thinking about ending it all the time. Maybe you have already planned what you’ll do when it happens, and the only thing stopping you are your kids. If this is your case, you might need to stop thinking and start acting.
Making the right decision
If these signs resonate with you, it might be best if you separate from your spouse. You don’t need to be afraid to do this. Not because you end your relationship means that your life will end, too. Your happiness should come first and staying in a toxic relationship will only hurt you and your family.