You may notice that some couples appear to have a much harder time with divorce than others. While the end of your marriage will always come at some emotional cost, it does not need to leave you scarred for life.
As a couple, you can do several things to minimize the impact divorce has on you both:
- Choose mediation: When you enter a courtroom for litigation, compromise may be the last thing on your mind. When you enter the room for your divorce mediation meeting, you both enter intending to reach an agreement.
- Understand the probable outcome: While no one can predict a divorce proceedings’ outcome with certainty, an experienced attorney will have a good idea. They understand the laws a court must abide by and can use their past experiences with other divorcing couples to help you set realistic expectations. It allows you to choose your battles wisely.
- Look forward: You cannot change the past. You cannot erase the errors you or your spouse made in your marriage. Once you agree to divorce, focus on the future and creating the conditions that allow you to exit your marriage and move on with life. Many couples waste precious time in the courtroom, dragging up past grievances, which prevents them from focusing on a positive future.
- Be civil to each other: Small comments or actions can soon escalate the situation and make the other party less willing to compromise. They could also be looked upon poorly by a judge and influence how favorable their decisions are toward you.
Divorce will never be easy, but with the right mindset and the right attorney, it need not be the worst experience of your life.